Couples Therapy Podcast – It Takes Two S1E3 – Process Over Content
Summary (AI generated)
In the latest episode of “It Takes Two,” hosts Charles and Clarissa explore the intriguing concept of ‘process over content’ in relationships. The episode begins with a playful banter about common couple arguments, setting the stage for a deeper dive into why small issues often lead to significant disputes.
Guest speaker, Dr. Tyler J. Vander Will from Harvard University, highlights the benefits of marriage on wellness, noting improvements in happiness, health, and reductions in negative habits. Clarissa Mace, clinical director of Utah Marriage and Family Therapy, connects these findings to biological factors like cortisol and oxytocin levels, underscoring the positive impact of committed relationships on physical and mental health.
The core of the episode revolves around the Gestalt Therapy principle of ‘process over content,’ where the focus is more on what’s happening (process) rather than what’s being discussed (content). This concept is vividly illustrated through a reenactment of a typical couple’s argument, emphasizing how underlying issues often manifest as trivial disputes.
Charles and Clarissa share personal anecdotes, demonstrating how addressing core issues can transform conflicts into opportunities for growth and understanding. They stress the importance of recognizing and addressing these underlying issues in therapy and everyday interactions.
The episode concludes with an innovative date idea and connection question. Couples are encouraged to watch reality TV, pausing during arguments to discuss the process and content involved. This exercise aims to foster awareness and empathy, helping couples apply the episode’s insights to their own relationships.
This episode of “It Takes Two” offers valuable insights for couples seeking to enhance communication and deepen their connection by understanding the deeper dynamics at play in their interactions.
